I hinted in yesterday’s post that I had a lot on my mind, and I wasn’t lying. Recently I’ve been focusing a lot on fun new recipes. This is something I love. I love sharing easy to make vegetarian recipes. But I also love connecting with readers and bloggers about the other pieces of healthy living. I believe food can be medicine, but it’s not the whole picture. As someone who’s battled an eating disorder, depression and anxiety I know first hand that food can be used to cover up things that are below the surface.
So what I wanted to talk about today is fear. How we can manage it & harness it.
Have you ever been in a situation where a small little worry pops in your head. Logically you know you should put it aside, but meanwhile your brain lets it spin. Like a rolling a snowball it gets bigger, sweeping up more anxieties with it, until you feel paralyzed. Yeah. That happens a lot. I get anxious about being late, missing planes, talking to strangers, talking to people on the phone, not feeling prepared, and the biggest one – disappointing people.
That’s when the stress kicks in. Like being chased, the body goes into flight or fight mode. I wish I could say my first instinct was to fight my fears. Head on. Crush them. Because my fears are often really silly (when looked at logically, but that’s not how fear works). Sometimes I spiral about what I think someone thought about something I said. Often it’s a fear that I’m disappointing someone, but they won’t tell me. This whole scenario unravels in my mind where I’ll be the last to know that I’ve done something wrong.
My instinct is to outrun these feelings. To distance and isolate myself from situations and people who I fear disappointing. But I can’t think of a single time that’s ever worked.
I’m not going to give you a simple bulleted list of “7 Fool Proof Ways to Stop Being So Anxious and Afraid About Things” because it’s never going to be that simple or cookie-cutter.
What I can do is share the one thing that has worked. Trust that the shit that scares you means something. Fear isn’t a weakness unless you let it be (which, full disclosure: I let it be a lot more than I’d care to admit).
I want to be honest and say I don’t always go beast mode on my anxieties, because that shit’s tough and I don’t always feel strong. But when I am able to stop running turn around and deal with what I’m afraid of, and face my problems with honesty and patience and compassion for myself I always feel better. And just know, you’re certainly not alone.
The same way the build up is a snowball effect, facing your anxieties builds a powerful, courageous momentum.
I’ll leave you with this quote that gives me butterflies, the excited kind, the hopeful kind, the “I can kick ass today” kind.
Thanks Amanda for hosting this Think Out Loud Thursday Linkup
No question. But I’d love to hear your thoughts. How do you battle your fears?