In it for the Long Run

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What I Ate Wednesday: What if you gave yourself the permission….

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Hey you rad humans! In addition to a collection of my Tuesday’s eats, I wanted to give you a little dare that I think we can all work on:

What if you gave yourself the permission…. to say nice things about yourself. And actually believe them.

Gasp. I know. It’s kind of a crazy concept right? It’s funny, I don’t ever remember being told directly that I wasn’t allowed to like myself or be openly confident but somewhere along the line that message slowly became ingrained into my belief system. “One must not openly exude confidence.” Instead I must embrace self deprecation and deflect praise.

But guys, this seemly insignificant mentality that I wasn’t worth being confidence actually had a huge effect on so many areas of my life. When I wasn’t confident in myself I doubted important decisions, I didn’t feel worthy of friendships or relationships and I dulled my efforts to pursue passions out of fear I wasn’t good enough.

Breakfast: Overnight Oats in a jar with Blissful Eats Granola

In it 4 the Long Run

So while confidence can sometimes seem superficial or even off-putting in excess, the negativity towards your inner awesomeness isn’t helping a single soul.

Mind you this is a major mentality shift, and is not an overnight affair. In fact, I’d say it’s taken me my whole damn life to be cool with what I’ve got and I’m still not there 100%.

Lunch: Tomato, Mozzarella, Pesto, Arugula on a Bagel

In it 4 the Long Run

 

Buuuut I promise you, being confident in your abilities, your style, your you-ness won’t make you self-centered or egotistical (my big fears) instead it will make your relationships deeper, your choices decisive and make you generally feel like the bad ass you were meant to be.

Not to get to woo-woo on ya, but it’s really incredible how someone’s attitude can actually affect how you perceive them. I generally think happier people are more attractive because I am just more drawn to that energy.

Try this little “trick” I’ve been using every morning. Tell yourself how great you look before you even see yourself. And don’t just say it, believe that the reflection you’re looking at is the best version you can imagine of yourself.

Before I step in front of my mirror I tell myself “Georgie you’re super cute, your smile is contagious, you’re gonna kill it today.” Low and behold when I do get to the mirror I see what I want to see, the best version of myself.

Dinner: Chickpea pasta with cilantro pesto and gardein faux chicken

In it 4 the Long Run

Your Turn:

  • Do you ever have a mirror psych up speech? (Just me?!)
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  2. I do this when I’m often overwhelmed or stressed about something going on in my life. Or if I’m having negative thoughts and don’t know what to do to remove them, I remind myself that “I am a strong, beautiful, and caring woman. This too will pass!” Thanks for your words of wisdom Georgie <3

  4. I’ve always been a very self-confident, independent woman. It’s been a struggle for me to balance that between being overly confident and seeming to be cocky or rude (something that my mom was always quick to tell me about)- so I can totally get what you said about that. You need to find a good balance and sometimes that’s hard!

    • I think we’re all trying to find that right balance, but knowing yourself well (the good the bad the ugly) and rocking the good is a worthwhile pursuit. I wish it wasn’t so rare for women to be outwardly confident.

  5. Such great Wednesday Wisdom, girl! love your mirror psych up speech. I do it every so often, but now I’m going to work on it errday! 🙂

  6. This is making me smile so BIG Georgie! I can certainly relate to not wanting to come across as egotistical/self-centered. Those that are blatantly so is a big personality turn-off for me. But there is definitely something to say about being humble and confident in yourself!
    You’re a rockstar Georgie <3 I'm going to have to start giving myself these pep talks 😀

  7. This post made me so happy!!! 🙂 and I totally agree- I’m drawn to happy people because their energy really is contagious and those are the people that I want to surround myself with! Keep on being your awesome self, Georgie! 🙂

  8. On my mirror I have a bunch of sticky notes with daily mantras and positive statements that I read every morning when I look in the mirror. Having those there on those days when I am lacking self confidence has been tremendously helpful to not let my bad mood affect my whole day.

  9. Love this post so much, Georgie! My psych-up speech is simple and cheesy: “You’re smart and strong and beautiful, and you can do hard things.” There are days where I say it a lot more than others, but I’ve come to really believe it. I think having a personal pep talk is extra important because ultimately, you’re the one who decides to be happy and confident, so being able to believe the good things about yourself is key.

    • It’s undeniable that when you consistently surround yourself with a message it will sink in, even if it’s tough to believe at first. I think of how I used to view myself just a couple years ago and how much that positive change has changed so many other great things in my life.

  10. A – even all of your easy meals look divine & B – I totally agree that happier people are just generally more attractive! It’s the law of attraction, and I feel like it applies to everything in life! Happy people attract happy people!

  11. This is so true Georgie. The more I look at and thank God for the gifts He’s given me instead of trying to exude false humility, the more I realize what it is to multiply my talents for the Lord. It’s not the talents that are wrong. I have to get away from that in order to see and appreciate that every good gift is from above. <3 <3

  12. The power of a position mind and outlook I think is often under estimated, but I can’t tell you how much life has changed when I tell myself I have everything going for me instead of thinking I have nothing!

  15. Telling yourself you look awesome before taking in your reflection is SUCH a fantastic idea, Georgie. It’s as if to say I am feeling myself (Nicki Minaj jokes aside) from the inside out. I’ll be adding that to my mornin routine 🙂

  17. Georgie, you are super cute! And thanks for spreading this wonderful messaae – If I’m not feeling confident or happy in my shoes, I know I come off as timid and unapproachable – and I seek to do the opposite. Thanks for the reminder. And I want that bagel!

  18. I tell myself “you got this girl!” I like your tip of telling yourself you look good as soon as you wake up. Confidence is so important and something I’m working towards daily.

  19. <3 <3 <3 You always have the best insights. I definitely have noticed that I've been happier and more positive lately, and I really believe it's because I start the day with positive thoughts and accept myself wherever I am. When I'm positive, it allows me to be a better person to others and to kick ass during the day. Also, that dinner combo is bomb and I need it now.

  20. Ah, I’m late to comment but this is wonderful, Georgie. Honestly, I had a conversation with a colleague about the power of the mind and positive thoughts just yesterday. Self pep-talk is acutlla ysomething my dad taught me years and years ago – the whole story is too embrassing to share here – but I’ve never tried what you suggested. I can see how this helps not only shield us from our own negative thoughts about ourseles but outside snarky comments, too. Thanks for sharing! And: you rock!

    • It’s kind of crazy, even the most positive people can fall victim of being jerks to themselves. It’s different from ego, rather just trying to be a nice person to the person you spend 100% of the time with